My Name is Kate Shevkenek and I am a rapid trauma therapist at Hard Knox Counselling in Kelowna, B. C.. I use EMDR to quickly reprocess traumas adaptively to effectively relieve clients of any disturbance the trauma may cause them, physically, emotionally, spiritually, or psychologically. I have successfully completed levels 1&2 of EMDR training through The institute. I use the … Read More

EMDR vs Traditional Therapy

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) processes the trauma that is stuck in the whole nervous system, rather than just what is in the mind. Traditional therapy processes trauma verbally and cognitively not emotionally or physically. Fact is, trauma is trapped in the whole nervous system. Some people find a gap between the head and the heart “well I know … Read More

Freedom in Self Control

You can only control yourself, on a good day. You cannot control others. Put your energy into what you have control over and start to see some real differences in your life. Rather than trying to control or change others in your life, love them, and control yourself. It might be difficult to control yourself in the face of hard … Read More


I offer Eye Movement Densensitization and Reprocessing Therapy (EMDR). This is an amazingly quick and effective way to remodel the basic building blocks of the brain. This is a highly effective and efficient way to treat many problems, including but not limited to trauma, PTSD, phobias, addiction, personality disorders, relationship problems. Traumatic memories create physical knots in the neurons of … Read More

Don’t compare yourself to others

We compare ourselves to others so often that we are usually not even aware that it is so ingrained in our thinking. Rather than ranking everybody, lets do our best and trust that others are too. We are all on different paths with different struggles. When we compare ourselves to others we either judge them as less than or we … Read More

Rules of Engagement

More important that “what” we fight about is “how” we fight. Sixty-seven percent of issues are perpetual problems that will never be resolved. Learning to fight fair and respectfully will create a loving environment in which communication and discussion is encouraged and growth and understanding are fostered. The #1 thing women can do is soften their start-up. A gentle approach … Read More

Unconditional Acceptance

Anger, frustration, and anxiety, can be helpful, but if they get in the way of your best life, they become unhelpful. They are a product of unhelpful thinking, which leads to unhelpful feelings and behaviours. Some things we can change and others are not in our control. Learning to accept ourselves, others and life unconditionally will minimize our anger and … Read More

Getting past infidelity

When an affair occurs it marks the end of the relationship as we know it. This being said, a new, possibly stronger, relationship can develop in its place. The couple can never go back to the relationship they once knew. If they choose to move forward they can create a new relationship together. It is difficult to move past betrayal … Read More


At Hard Knox we work towards healing and wellness of all aspects of life, mind, body, and soul, as well as relationship to self, others, and the world.  


Even if we knew every language and used all the words, hand gestures, and facial expressions possible, we would still misunderstand one another. Therefore, it is so important to do what we can to understand and be understood. So try to say what you mean and mean what you say, especially the things that are hard to talk about. One … Read More