You can only control yourself, on a good day. You cannot control others. Put your energy into what you have control over and start to see some real differences in your life. Rather than trying to control or change others in your life, love them, and control yourself. It might be difficult to control yourself in the face of hard circumstances but that is the best you can do. Act out of love, remain calm and patient and watch your world change. All we can do is love each other and control ourselves, on a good day.